For years we’ve been taught that sales are won through persistence: more calls, more emails, more follow-ups. But what if the real secret wasn’t insisting, but connecting? Carlos Rosales, leader of Neurosales, an international company specializing in advising and training teams for businesses, explains and elaborates on this.
The difference may seem subtle, but it changes everything. Insisting is pushing; connecting is understanding. When you understand what motivates a client to say “no,” you stop pressuring them to change their mind and begin to guide them through their decision. Because the client doesn’t need to be convinced: they need to feel heard.
From Persistence to Trust
“Many salespeople believe that persistence is demonstrated by repeating the same message until they get a response. But what truly builds trust isn’t persistence, but consistency.”
Good follow-up isn’t about convincing, it’s about providing value: sending a useful article, sharing an idea that solves a problem, or showcasing a similar success story. That communicates genuine interest, not desperation.
“When someone feels that their need matters more than your sales quota, the relationship is transformed.”
Listening Changes the Conversation
Active listening isn’t about letting them talk; it’s about understanding what’s behind the words.
When a client says, “We already have a supplier,” the easy response would be, “Ours is better.” The smart response is: “Perfect, what do you value most about your current supplier?”
That question opens a door. And behind that door is the information that sets you apart from everyone else.
The buyer doesn’t remember who talked the most, but who listened best.
Personalizing is Connecting
Nothing creates a stronger bond than feeling understood. An email or a meeting where the person notices you’ve done your homework, that you understand their industry, their context, and their challenges, immediately earns respect.
“There’s no trick: just research, observation, and empathy.”
-Selling B2B isn’t about offering a product: it’s about demonstrating that you understand their business almost as well as the person you’re contacting.
Silence also speaks volumes
“The best salespeople not only master the spoken word, but also the power of silence. After a good question, pausing for a few seconds can be more powerful than filling the space with words.”
-That silence allows the other person to think, reveal information, and build trust. In sales, it’s not always the one who talks the most who wins, but the one who listens best and manages their time effectively.
Curiosity: the new close
“Genuine curiosity is the bridge to trust.”
-Asking questions not to close the deal, but to understand, changes the tone of the entire conversation: “How are you measuring that result?”, “What would happen if that process improved by 20%?”
When the other person senses that you’re learning from them, they begin to see you as an ally, not a salesperson.
Connecting is also a skill that can be learned.
– Connecting isn’t a gift, it’s a skill. It’s developed through empathy, observation, and practice.
“After each meeting, ask yourself: Did I interrupt? Did I really listen? Did I contribute anything useful?”
– Small daily adjustments transform an average salesperson into a humane, strategic, and memorable professional.
Closing isn’t the end.
“Perhaps you don’t need more follow-ups, but rather more honest conversations.”
– It’s not about pushing to close, but about connecting to build lasting relationships.
“When you achieve that, sales come naturally.”
– And you, how well are you truly connecting with your clients?
About the author: Carlos Rosales
Carlos Rosales is a postgraduate professor at several universities in Colombia, Panama, Venezuela, and Guatemala. Author of the books “People Buy People,” “People Buy Leaders,” and “Epic Sales Blunders,” with over 90,000 copies sold. Trainer of sales professionals throughout Latin America. High-impact speaker and mentor.
Recognized by LinkedIn as one of the Top Voices in Latin America and by GOIntegro as one of the Top 12 HR Influencers in Colombia.
He is currently the director of Neurosales Consultants, a training and human development company with a presence throughout Latin America.
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